Get Married to your Best Friend


As a full-time missionary since 1990, I’ve counselled a lot of couples. Officiating weddings is one of the favorite parts of my job.

I’ve seen a few really good marriages. I’ve seen a lot of bad marriages. Fortunately, our marriage falls into the really good category. I wish I could tell you I was really smart back when we decided to get married in 1993, but in many ways, I just feel like I got lucky. God gave me a gift. And I am extremely thankful.

My wife is my best friend. We live together. We work together. We shop together. We play together. We exercise together. We make our investment decisions together. We review our budget together. We raise our boys together. We are a team. We love each other.

It works. If you want a successful marriage, get married to your best friend!

Bonus: One additional thought is about the romance side of getting married to your best friend.

It might seem strange to want to jump in bed with your best friend. After all, you are friends and you just enjoy hanging out together (shopping, working, sports, walks, talks, dinners, etc.). But I’ll tell you what, after you decide to get married to your best friend, it’s unstoppable the desire to take it to the next level of friendship.

Being married to your best friend makes a marriage really enjoyable. You like to hang out. You enjoy each other. Then, the next thing you know, the desire to do more just happens. After 20 years of marriage, because we are best friends, the romance is still organic and natural, an overflow of our friendship.

In my opinion, if you want a great love life that is sustainable in a lifelong marriage, take the friends with benefits concept to the next level and get married to your best friend for life.

How about you? What are your thoughts about marriage? Do you have a best friend? Please comment below…

Just Married 1993

Just Married 1993

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